Kratos said:
This for me is the worst kinda of homophobic response, that self conceited hate for gays under the pretence of “liking” them
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I don’t mind black people as long as they don’t serve me in shops or get into positions of political power and of course don’t have the same rights as us white folks”. You can coat it up anyway you want but that’s the bottom line (or at least how I’m viewing your posts).
Its already been pointed out that the ability to marry gives the couple basic rights; to act as next of kin, tax reduction etc, if marriage was purely a commitment then I might not be so pissed off about this, it’s the fact you are “rewarded” for being married, something which is denied to all gay couples by bigots. And yes you are a bigot before you object, the Bible says a lot of stuff, and I doubt you follow it all to the latter.
I can’t stand inequality of any kind, and just because you have a higher post count than me doesn’t give you the right to tell me to “screw off”, and you cant “be gay if you want” you don’t chose it, unlike the religion you are forcing on people who might not share your faith and thus not want to be constricted by it. You want to suppress people and hurt those who are just being themselves in the name of god, disgusting.
Speaking in the name of God is a way to follow morals you had not to set up formerly. But everyone follows guidelines looking for what is good or not, and either they build them themselves or accept other. So either churchgoers think these preconceived ideas are perfect or they think the authority of God is inescapable whatever they could have think. The second situation is even worse because they declare themselves irresponsible of what they do or think or see.. Tony kinda said "God told me the gay thing was wrong but also to love each other."
If you disagree you can break dogmas. If you accept it you're responsible. Come on. In my country the Church is really conservative more than everywhere on earth. About 50 years ago most of people were churchgoers. My parents generation began to put that in question and my generation is almost non believer. Nowadays less than 10% of the population are churchgoers. Grandma Powarr
. The main issue is that firstly Religion is a way to feel better and to feel supported by others. But, in my country nothing has changed for decades. For example priests can't be married. We know that they have sex all the same. Most of them have gay relationships (probably the situation in jail is similar when you're cut from the opposite sex) and condemn it though. That's fun, some have kids too. And other thing, don't ask either why most of parents don't accept anymore to leave the priests with their kids... The point of no return was the time when they told our parents that condoms should be banned and that dying with Aids was just a fair consequence of betraying god in having sex before marriage. Is that respectful of life? I mean each life?
So, to my mind, religion is nowadays incapable to respond to real issues (since we have the right to express ourselves totally of course) because it's self centered.
His response wasn't homophobic, it was an intolerant answer which would like to look like a toterant answer. I'm convinced that's the way each religion is today. Look I'm a non believer. What I said will be considered as unrespectful, because I say the concept of god doesn't exit instead of saying God exists but I don't see it.. Can you tell me why saying that god doesn't exist is more offending that saying he exists? And what is funny is that believers will think such a post should be withdrawn and it will be withdrawn for the good of the all community.. That's funny, isn't it?
For me Relgion stands for fake values but "each other" is nearer to the concept of "me" than to "the different guy".
I'm a non believer but I received a catholic education when I was a kid, because it was still common 20 years ago. And I decided myself to abandon it at 12. Being a non believer doesn't prevent me from knowing a lot of stuffs about religions and its consequences because religion is a part of the culture each country has. So please don't tell me I'm narrow minded, I had to "build" me myself.
Last time I spoke about religon my post was withdrawn. I speak honestly whithout being irrespectful. It's just my opinion. But if someone want to withdraw my Rep Points, I hope he'll at least write his name this time... fraidy-cat. I'm honest, so be honest too.
Back to the actual topic, I'd like to ask Kratos to tell me why the gay marriage is so important to him. You know, maybe it's me, but I think: If I were gay, I won't give a damn about marriage. By the way I'm straight and I don't. I'd just like to have fair rights and to live in peace. It's just a question, because it's not easy to understand everything.
You said you wanted marriage to allow gay couples to feel identical. Don't you think the marriage should be the next step after the true tolerance? Or don't you think the concept of marriage has been conceived by straight and is for straight? Don't you think gays should celebrate their union the way they want, and maybe differently...
As I said before, a important part of the gay couples over here think the marriage is not for us. They prefer fighting for tolerance because they think imposing gay marriage could much more threaten the acceptation and tolerance people have regarding them. When you see demonstrators in the US with their signs "One man One woman" you could realize it leads to a come back of extremist thoughts...
I'd like we have a deeper talk. Not only it's good it's bad.. We're not here for that. We're here to understand each other and to share ideas..
Deweyrules! said:
I think one of the main problems is the interchangeable nature of the terms marriage and wedding/ wed. Marriage refers to the civil liberties and rights and the recognition of a couple in the eyes of the law having evolved from the religious term. The term wedding or to 'wed' someone or alternatively a marriage of 'holy matromony' refers to the religous arena. Therefore Tony (I don't want it to seem like anyones ganging up on you, I happen to disagree but it's the same way that I disagree with those who say Lost is a clever program
) I think you're possibly true in saying that gay people cannot have a wedding, however, I personally feel they should be able to marry- as this is political rather than religious.
I've separated my next point as it's possibly more controversial than previous comment (so please feel free to mod. it). If everything in the bible is interperated in its literal sense then surely you would in fact be somewhat xenephobic and against those of different religions and cultures? I personally am agnostic (I suppose Malcolm in fact says it best in 'malcolm dates a family'- 'I'm a hopeful agnostic' but I guess this is a kind of selfish religious belief. Finally, on a more frivillous note, if you're an atheist, how are you sworn in when testifying in a court of law?
Wow, so well said. I agree with each word you wrote. But I don't understand why a moderator could feel the need to mod it...